--- title: "Unleashed E52: Amy Gallo - Want Better Results? Let’s Just Get Along!" description: The best vision, strategy or talent could fail if people in your organization don’t get along. 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Let’s Just Get Along! - By Tim O'Connor - November, 3 2022 - [Home](https://blog.unleashresults.com/) - [Blog](https://blog.unleashresults.com) - Unleashed E52: Amy Gallo - Want Better Results? Let’s Just Get Along! Table of Contents The best vision, strategy or team will fall short if people in your organization don’t get along. Could incivility, friction and conflict be holding you back? Amy Gallo, an expert in human interactions and workplace dynamics, describes how a lack of harmonious relationships can hold people and organizations back, and what to do to address this problem. ## Actions You Can Take Right Now 1. Experiencing incivility in the workplace and having to deal with difficult people is extremely common and impairs organization and individual wellbeing. Most often it’s not addressed, but **the path to better results is to find ways to ensure harmony in relationships**. 2. Creating harmony requires **helping people see the link between their behaviors and the impact it is having on others**. This includes questioning our own perspectives of the other person, isolating the offensive behavior (instead of labelling the other person generally as “difficult”), and seeking allyship and trust. 3. As leaders, we need to have high self-awareness and seek feedback to ensure we are not the problem. **Using anonymous feedback mechanisms and having straight-talk with colleagues can provide this insight.**   Video Player           00:00  00:00 00:31 Use Up/Down Arrow keys to increase or decrease volume.         ***View or listen to this and other past episodes on the [Unleashed Podcast Library](https://unleashresults.com/unleashed-series/)*** ## Episode Highlights and Excerpts - No matter how good a vision, strategy or plan is, **if people don’t get along within an organization the results will be less than they could be**. Incivility takes a toll on organizations and individuals. Trust, mutual respect, and a culture of [psychological safety](https://blog.unleashresults.com/unleashed-season-3-episode-8-psychological-safety-and-high-performance) is the path to sustainable high performance. - Friction, incivility, and conflict between individuals triggers a physiological threat response in people, forcing us into less creative and more defensive modes of thinking. - In her book Getting Along, Amy’s research shows that nearly everyone, **98%, deal with difficult colleagues**. In most cases we *grin and bear it* instead of trying to do something to improve the situation. - It’s dangerous to objectively label some people as *difficult*. We view other people through our own perspectives and biases, and what we perceive as difficult may not be so in the eyes of others**. There are always two sides to any relationship**. We should try to isolate the difficult behavior as opposed to labelling a person as universally difficult. - The common personae or archetypes that show up in the research include passive-aggressiveness, the insecure boss, and overly pessimistic individuals. Each of these personas require different strategies to deal with. - Universal strategies that can be employed when dealing with so-called difficult people include: - Recognizing that your perspective is just one perspective and may not be shared with others. - Treat efforts to improve the situation with that person as subtle experiments. - Don’t point fingers without first **cleaning up your own side of the street**. - Use the SBI tool – state the Situation, the observed Behavior, and the Impact of that behavior. - A common question that Amy gets is, “how do I know if I’m the problem?” It’s a good question, and **leaders need to** [**seek feedback**](https://blog.unleashresults.com/unleashed-season-2-episode-3-thanks-for-the-feedback-the-science-and-art-of-receiving-feedback-well) **and have trusted sources of straight talk they can go to**. ## **Take Your Business to the Next Level**  At Results we care about your success, we understand how overwhelming it can feel to run a business, and we’re here to help. 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